Are you a worrier or a warrior?
There is a saying that is a useful one to adopt if you’re prone to worrying unnecessarily.
It is, “Why don’t you save your worry until there is something to worry about?”
It’s a useful mantra because sometimes in life there are times that rightly cause us to worry such as the illness of a loved one.
However, there are plenty of other times when people worry about what “might happen” when the likelihood of that actually occurring is next to nothing.
You see, one of the keys to financial and career success is to worry less and be proactive and positive more.
You literally don’t sweat the small stuff because you’re concentrating on the big stuff.
What does a worrier look like?
The truth of the matter is that you can spot a worrier from a “frowny” mile away.
That’s because they share characteristics that make them easily identifiable.
In a group situation, they may be the ones who are looking the most stressed or fearful of what happens next.
At work, they’re likely the team member who don’t take constructive criticism well or who stands around the water cooler endlessly discussing “what ifs” instead of actually making the most of the opportunities available at their workplace.
Other bad habits of worriers include:
- Find things to stress about
- Are generally reactive (not proactive)
- Are people-pleasers (and not in a good way)
- Avoid the things they should address
- Don’t stand up for themselves
- Hope things will (magically) work out
- Love routine, predictability and familiarity
- Beat themselves up often
- Procrastinate
- Apologise unnecessarily
- Waste emotional energy on stuff they can’t change
- Waste time, talent and opportunities
- Are exhausting to be around
What does a warrior look like?
The opposite of a worrier is a warrior and they are also easy to pick out in a crowd.
That’s because they are usually the people who other people want to be around.
Warriors are often inspiring, which draws others to them like moths to a success flame.
They also are the least likely to look for permission, sympathy or approval and importantly are quite open to acknowledging their flaws without a hint of fear and self-loathing.
Where worriers never take chances, warriors aren’t afraid to bite off more than they can chew because they believe in their own abilities – and are prepared to chew like crazy.
Other good habits of warriors include:
- Are prepared to get uncomfortable
- Make the tough decisions
- Persevere when most would give up
- Ask the hard questions
- Explore and exploit their potential
- Finish what they start
- Talk less and do more
- Are solution-focused not problem-obsessed
- Don’t shirk responsibility
- Are adaptable and cope well with change
- Fight for what they believe in
